Hon... High Maintenance is putting it mildly.

No one here can sugar coat what you are going to go through. It will be rough. I mean, think about it. Your granddaughter is young AND SHE CAN'T DO IT ANYMORE!!!

Unless you are a fit, thoroughly healthy, with all the patience of a saint, (and how many of us are that healthy, with the patience of a saint??).

This is a very difficult decision for you. Let me tell you the experience I've witnessed with my next door neighbor. And yes, I know that no two experiences with challeged children are the same, but you are both great grandmothers, so I will tell you what went on.

Next door to me there was this woman named Anna, (who died 2 years ago at the age of 80).

When she was 60, she became the legal guardians of her two great grandchildren. They were born to a drug addicted mother, who signed away all rights. This was her own grandson's girlfriend.

So she took in her Grandson (who was 19 at the time, and the two kids born two years apart.

This poor woman never had one day's peace in her life. And she had the father of the kids living in the house!!!!

Do you have any other help in the house?

The father threw up his hands and said: "I can't deal with them, they don't listen, (and the boy had no where near the challenges that your great grandkid has).

I cannot tell you how many times, someone banged at my door to ask "please go and help grandma (great grandma I mean).

I would go next door and find her sitting on the floor all confused (and she was 70 at this time). They had worn her ragged. One kid was hitting the other kid with a two by four. The great grandmother was clearly overwhelmed and I just said to the kids "where's you daddy"??? It seems he was in the bedroom hiding out from all the stress. AND HE WAS 30 at the time.

Please understand, I'm not trying to scare you, or tell you what to do. I'm trying to show you a clearer picture, that when one takes in kids who are emotionally and physically challenged, and one is a certain age, then one has to be prepared to devote ALL THEIR TIME, ENERGY AND RESOURCES to raising that child.

I saw this neighbor of mine deteriorate at a fast pace. Every single day I was called in that house. The screaming was unbelievable. The father could do nothing because he didn't know what to do. Yeah, the kids saw a psychiatrist and were medicated. It did no good. They did what they wanted to do.

We all suspect that the boy is bi-polar. He is now in jail. We all saw that coming. The girl is now 17 and doing her own thing.

The great grandma passed away two years ago. We never thought she would even make it to 80. I can truthfully tell you that she never had a day's peace in her life.

And the kids were entitled to social services, medicaid, everything, because she was their legal appointed guardian. But different states vary. You have to check on this.

The point I am trying to get to is "Think long and carefully about what you will be getting yourself into".

You sound like a very un-selfish caring, compassionate Grandmother.

You'll get lots of emotional support from us here at Neurotalks.

Just be very sure that you know what you will be undertaking if you decide to do this.

It's a tough call.

I most certainly wish you well.