When you look at a rainbow what is the first thing you think? What beautiful colors, is there really a pot of gold, where exactly does it end? Many questions have been thought about regarding the rainbow.

However, all those aside, do you know the true story of the rainbow? After God flooded the earth, He made a promise never to do so again and so he put a rainbow in the sky to show he would keep the promise. He didn't have to put that rainbow there, but He did. He could have quietly kept his promise with out giving such a beautiful and sometimes rare event. Have you ever thought that he was also promising us that he would keep other promises also when he put that rainbow in the sky? I would like to think so.

We as people often make promises, maybe they are made without thought of keeping them. I think that most people when they make a promise do with all intent of keeping that promise. But alas, life gets in the way! Sometimes things happen and those promises can't be kept. It is especially true of people with chronic illnesses. How many times have we said, I will be there I promise, that eventful day arrives and we are not physically able to do what we promised.

We lament, feel guilty and are often made to feel guilty, and we add more sorrow to our day because we didn't do what we said. I used to tell people, don't make me promise, my rule is...they are made to be broken by humans.lol
I do say, I'll try, I promise and that is as close to a promise you will get out of me, unless it is to pull a prank. lol

We tend to beat ourselves up over not keeping a promise, STOP doing that!!
You can not help what happens from day to day, if those people around you do not understand having a chronic illness...guess what? IT IS NOT YOUR PROBLEM, IT IS THEIRS!!!! You might think kids will not understand, wrong, kids understand better than any adult you will ever meet. However, you do have to explain to them...of course they will not understand if you don't explain to them how your illness works.

My 5yro grandson understands better than any adult without MS, that is in my life. He knows when I say we can't walk much today, that I can't walk. He understands that when I say, we will have a play station day all day. He gets it better than any adult, so does my nephew that is 8.

So stop beating yourself up over what adults think because you can't do what you told them you would! The only person you are really stressing is yourself. You just apologize for missing the day and tell them hopefully another day will be better. Better yet ask them if they are up for spur of the moment lunches or whatever. You might be surprised at the reaction... you might just ask on a day they really need a friend, and there you are. Life is not always about promises, its about being a friend when needed if possible. If you can't be a friend that day, then be one on another day.

I have called friends on a moment's whim, if they can make it fine...if not, that's ok...hopefully there will be other days.

The next time you see a rainbow, instead of beating yourself up over not keeping a promise, just enjoy the colors and wait for the next time one appears.

Momma Sez...

If a man wants a maid he should hire one, if he wants a wife he should send her flowers! If a woman wants a handyman, she should marry one that know how to be handy!

Do something good for you today, don't make me tell ya twice!!