i had a friend a few years ago in the same type situation.

since she knew she wasn't going to have more babies ( having tubes tied after delivery) she didn't want a bunch of brand new stuff.

we threw her a gently used baby shower. we all found baby items we had saved, plus bargains at thrift stores. that boy was outfitted until he was 3.

saving on clothes...we stocked her up in diapers.

just an idea.