you need one of the counsleors from where they live to evaluate the situation. make sure it is out in the open on EXACTLY all that you do for them. and that those things have to change/stop. a third party might be listened to by hubby and BIL.

stay strong sweety. i know that will be hard. you love them and ccare for them out of love. but you have a family who needs you too. you deserve to be the DIL and just love and enjoy the time y'all have left.

<---hands her buddy a bottle of Calgon.....

im or email me anytime. stay warm today. (((hugs)))