Hi Vicky,

No wonder you are feeling frustrated and overwhelmed. Maybe you could type up a list of all of the things that you are doing for your in-laws and any concerns that you have for them. (e.g. not being able to walk downstairs in an emergency) That might help if you have it all on paper for your husband (and his family) to see and to be able to discuss the situation with people at the assisted living retirement home. I think you have really been going above and beyond the call of duty and Curious is right ... you do deserve to be the DIL and not the sole caregiver that your in-laws depend on.

I hope the director does make a move... and soon!

take care,