if it can make you feel any better I am in the same boat as you are...i was the family scapegoat. I was always called in though to do the dirty work. My sister told me we are strangers when I asked her for financial help. Two of her three sons are self made millions and probably give money to charitiesand write them off. My sister has two homes. My mother left her m7uch more than she left me. On holidays, my parents would spend them with my sister if she and her family weren't away. I* wasn't invited. *I, the younger sister, had to deal with my father's drunkeness and rages.
I have been told this is a common story.
Now i sometimes pray for Myra and my mother-that eases the pain. I have no contact with them. I waste little time now on my sister and her family...somethings are just too painful. I* do thank God that I am not my sister. My father became a hero to me after he got a stroke and lived for six more months. He finally showed what a man he was. The nurses said when he learned to walk again with help he would go to other patients and try to cheer them up. when i was diagnosed i realized he was bipolar *II* also and self medicated with liquor.
Bobby