bj,

hugs first.
i lost my brother to cancer. not the same thing i know.
still so many what if's and wonders. even the anger that he didn't get it taken care of years earlier. we even have pictures of him and my uncles digging at a "wort" on his foot.
the why may always be unanswered or maybe someday he will come to you in a dream and release you from that pain.
i am have always been close to my kids and their friends. pre-teens and teens dn't always think their actions through. mark was thinking about it. that doesn't mean he understood at his age what those actions truely meant.
love you sweets.