NaeNae, big-sister time!

you can tune me out if you want, but here's my advice anyway.

like Frank, I don't know the whole situation, but please think really HARD before you give this guy another chance.

because we love you and can't stand to think of you being hurt again.

I'd say, give it a YEAR to see if he can straighten himself out before you even CONSIDER getting back together with him.

your emotions are probably all in a big ol' tangle right now, and that leaves you vulnerable to his pleas and ploys.

he may very well HAVE the best intentions (I can't know) but patterns are patterns, and even if he doesn't do it on purpose, he will probably hurt you again.

plus, the trust in your relationship is totally *evaporated* right now.

that needs TIME to be rebuilt, otherwise, all you'll do (even if you try NOT to) is WATCH him suspiciously, and worry, and there'll be sniping and undercurrents all over... and maybe even arguments.

please, pretty please, heed my warnings (I have been there, and OWN this T-shirt, totally!)

give it time, and if it's real, the relationship will heal and come back together, given nurturing and hope and love.

but if it doesn't, you won't be so badly stuck again, or boxed into a corner.

I know it's hard to be a single mom, and even HARDER to be alone, but it might just be what you NEED right now, some time of solitude, meditation, and HEALING.

so, resist his pleas, and give it a year, to make sure, okay dear?

okay, big-sister-rant over.