Alffe, you always have just the right words... I was told by the Hospice SW that the 3 T's of grief help.

Time ~ Talk ~ Tears

da duck: I talk to my Mom alot. There have been so many times when I wished I could just pick up the phone and talk, or sometimes I need an answer to a question and she would have had it. The Hospice SW told me that tears and a feeling of loss are a way to honor your loved one and not to let anyone tell me to "get over it". We cannot will ourselves to feel any different. I'm sorry for your loss and am assuming Wes was your DH?

I have always been a soft touch, but have cried more this past yr, since losing my Mother, than ever. Maybe b/c I'm getting older, but I can tear up so easily. The pain has lessened, but I miss the physicality of her being here.

Thank you Alffe~~ Your'e a blessing around here.