I know what you mean in not trusting a person who has abused someone.

On my road of experience,I found that forgiveness starts with a choice. I made a decision to forgive people. Oh it has been hard. Some days I have found that I've slipped,and I had to maintain a forgiveness attitude again,and forgive them again. I might have to forgive them 77 times 7.

I have found that some people can stir up a bitterness about another person again. Again 77 times 7. I have to work at it continually. I hope this helps someone.

Maybe after awhile,that person will forgive you.(Back on subject) It might take awhile,and keep the door open and the person may forgive you. The person may have to start with the choice of forgiveness,and the feelings may come later.

This is a good subject for me too. With forgiveness heelings happen emotionally.

Back on subject,when you ask someone to forgive you and they say no,it is quite a jolt. With me two people come to mind. I forgive them. It's a relief. It's good for some people to forgive 77 times 7. BF