My dear, I know EXACTLY what you are talking about. I had a 46 year friendship go south because of a broken promise.

Things happen. Sometimes promises can't be kept. This is just human nature. But when that happens, THAT'S WHEN YOU FIND OUT THE TRUE NATURE OF THE PERSON WHO PROMISED YOU SOMETHING.

When something happens and the promise cannot be kept, the person who made the promise should come over to you, express regret (most sincerely), and say "how can I make this up to you, I don't want to ruin a friendship".

See, this is WHAT SHOULD HAVE HAPPENED IN MY CASE. It didn't. I found out the friendship was not worth anything. That my feelings did not matter. I've come to terms with it.

It wasn't that she broke the promise. I can understand that sometimes things happen and one can't fulfill what was promised.

In my case, all she had to do was show up the next day on my doorstep with a batch of cookies (she was a baker). All she had to do was say "Melody, I am so sorry, I had to do what I did, I know I didn't keep my word, and I don't want this to be the end of our 46 year friendship".

She never did that.

So if someone made you a promise, and did not keep it (or could not keep it), it is most definitely up to that person to do the right thing. And the right thing is not to shrug it off and think "oh well, another time, this really wasn't so important".

Of course it was important. It was important TO YOU!!!!

Promises are important. When broken, they hurt. It's up to the other person to make it right.

This is only common sense. It was the way I was raised.

I hope whoever made that promise to you, if she didn't keep it, or couldn't keep it, that she acknowledges YOUR feelings.

Good Luck.

Melody