Well while I was stubbornly trying to save my marriage you guys were right yet again,my husband has been saying how he wanted to get back together, even had me pick out a house to buy etc. and I got a dear John email this morning, apparently he still doesn't know what he wants...he wants to be part of our lives etc...I sent him and his commander an email telling him to stick to the court order...no more no less...because I am officially done with his sorry ***...my self esteem has not hit an all time low and I ain't doin it again!