it's hard natalie.

when i got divorced, i lost everyone i had been close to since i was 16. they were more family to me than my own. when my X got remarried, she made sure no one had contact with me. i have since reconnected with a few, since he got divorced again. but 15 years was a long time to make up.

no matter what, stick to your guns. keep the friendship and sisterhood going. it's the best thing for the kids. any new in-laws that come along will just have to take it in stride that this is the way the family is.

btw...things are so different now, since my x got rid of the wicked woman. my husband and i have even had him over for holidays. i have gone to lunch with him and his new girlfriend. we are all family. we have 4 kids together and a grandson.