A lot of people ask this question which is really want to? Want to what? Well usually they are speaking of making wild passionate sex all day or night whatever the case may be.

Well the truth for my own life is just this...I am now at the age that if asked that question...my answer is going to be: Nah, I'd rather have a smoothie...make it a tropical. This is just another path of life. Now back in the day, and not that many days back...I would have been asking aunght to quicker than my partner. lol Life has a way of changing even the most important of things in relationships.

The end of sex in a relationship does not end the relationship...you will note, I said sex...if that was all you had...then you didn't have much of a relationship to begin with. There are many aspects of a relationship...love, trust, companionship, contentment...and the list goes on.

When the intimacy of sex is no longer there then the other aspects take over...the intimacy of just sitting close together and sharing thoughts, the intimacy of being content just to be in the presence of the other without saying a word. The intimacy of a smile over knowing that smile is your smile and not meant for any other person on this good green earth.

Relationships all have their ups and downs...sometimes it seems more downs than ups. Those times test the relationship and when you come through them, you come through closer and stronger...or you should, that is not always the case. Afterall this is the real world, not fantasy island you can get on a plane and forget all the troubles that exist. I think the hardest part in a relationship is letting little wrongs go...just forgetting that word or two that was said in anger. Those words you never thought you would hear from a person you're willing to spend your life with.

Letting go of those little petty things is something hard to do for most people, it is for me...I remember them and with each little cut it bleeds deeper. You never see it and never know it...but something is lost each time. Why it is hard for some of us to let these things go, I have no idea and I doubt any psychologist can really tell you...they will tell you that you need to move on and get over it. But have they ever told anyone why they can't let go to begin with. Maybe one can't get over it and move on because they feel it is a form of betrayal...the hardest of things to forgive.

However, back to the relationship with sexual intimacy...there will come a time with age or with MS, etc that you lose that desire. You will also miss that desire, you remember with fond memories of those times, but that is as far as those desires will go...and you miss them. Oh, don't despair, you still have your partner and the relationship takes on a new aspect.

You now live with your partner and share intimate moments of things you didn't seem to have time for because all those moments were spent yelling in ecstacy and forgot all about the questions or comments. You have time now to learn even more about your partner's dreams, thoughts and outlook on things about life, time to share more movies or walks...endless adventures of a new beginning.

Nostalgic memories will always remain about the passionate times, but not with as much sadness as you would think. Now, may I please have a Tropical smoothie...it reminds me of one or two of those nights.