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Old 07-01-2008, 01:04 PM
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Unhappy mean people

I don't understand why some people feel like the best time to pick on someone is when they are already down. When I first got sick, people at work were very understanding and concerned. I get it that most people simply don't have the attention span for someone else's long term illness, but what I don't understand are the 2 people at work who have made it their daily mission to go out of their way to make me more miserable.

It started with my boss's assistant coming to the conclusion that b/c I don't have a Dx yet and b/c I manage to be pretty up beat in spite of not feeling good that I must not really be sick. The irony is that I am constantly told that I am not friendly enough (since coming back from being in the ER). So I am damned if I do and damned if I don't. If I make an effort to be upbeat then I must not be sick. If I am feeling sick then I'm not friendly.

To make it worse, she got one of the partners involved. So now I have him breathing down my neck. They together intimidate me and talk about me behind my back. I got double teamed in the partner's office a few weeks ago where they had taken my (requested) list of what my job description entails and my list of extra things I do for people without asking for anything in return and then went to 2 other people to get more ideas for about 6 other tasks that they then put all together to create my new job description. All the while empshasizing that these are not "new" responsibilities even though I have worked here for a year and a half and nobody has once told me any of those things were my job.

Then one of the tasks requires that I visit a particular wbsite each day to download a document and e-mial it around the office. Pretty innocuous. Except that the website in question all of a sudden will not open on MY computer about 3 days in. Mind you, every other site will open on my computer and every other comp in the office will open this site. So my IT friend tried to help me. He literally has to download a new browser so that I can do it at all. Now today the site won't let me log in. The page to be downloaded is password protected. So I send an e-mail explaining to the list why I can't get to it. Then of course I get an e-mail from mean partner copying my boss and the founding owner implying that I am trying to get out of doing it and making excuses! It is soooo obvious that they are trying to set me up as being a bad employee which is so wrong on so many levels. I am one of the few people who shows up every day on time, who often comes bakc from lunch before my hour is up (even when I am not "making up time spent at the Drs"), and stays till the end of my day. I am the only person here who is never mean to anyone even when I don't feel good. Even when I do snap at someone I always apologize. Nobody has EVER apologised to ME!

The worst part is that when they do this and get my adrenaline up and my heart beating hard I end up having 2-3 days of really bad muscle weakness afterward. I have really good health benefits where I am and am heading into surgery so I can't change jobs. I just don't understand why they are picking on me like this.
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