I certainly don't have all the answers. I can see your point about it's his mother and all, BUT......if he feels they are overbearing, then he has a right to feel that way!

Obviously, he is drowning out his anger with the alcohol. Dying a slow and painful death!

Yeah, if he wants boundaries around his parent's involvement in his life.....swollen pancreas or not, he has a right to personal boundaries.

I've had to separate from my own mother for a bit this summer.....I NEED to! My own personal wellness!!! She's a wonderful woman, and no I would never leave her on the side of the road, BUT....like your friend there....I'm in my early 30's with my own family, I don't need her being overly involved in my own life. And yeah...even while attempting sobriety....she's not clean and sober like I am trying to be.

Your friend has some valid points! He has a right to validation for his anger.

Co-dependency lead to more and more drama.....

Why does it seem like you are trying to mediate this family??? {don't mean to sound harsh in tone with that....}