A urologist is in order. No fun testing, but important. I have found baclofen to help somewhat with my hesitancy (doc's term). Too much baclofen and I have to rush to make it. I take 1/2 -2xday and a whole one at night.
I drink a half gal (64 oz) of water everyday, sometimes more, plus too much decaf coffee in the morning. I still get up at night, sometimes, and it seems to come and go randomly. I like to drink most of my water before 7pm. I have a 1/2 glass as I take bedtime meds.
My bowels are getting more unresponsive. I mostly have spinal leisons, also. I take Miralax (no bloating or cramping). I take a 1/2 capful (dose) daily. Any more and it's too watery. Typically I go every other day.
You are your best guinea pig and trial and error and doctors opinions will hopefully get you in a better routine, soon. Wishing you luck on your quest.

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