And sometimes, like your later post hints at.....you have to 'let go' ...

They ALL need help in that household. Came to you, got your emotions involved and then did what alcoholics do best...ignored your advice, because it didn't fall into their desire to drink catagory!

Of course you want to care, you've known these people for years! Of course you want to intervene, but neither one of them are able to look at themselves and realize that they BOTH are contributing to this fiasco.

She's "blaming" her son for her drinking....that's a sign of "denial" in my book....

Best of Luck on your detachment from this family!