Gosh Donna~ Sure wish I could offer something helpful, but all I can think of is to say that I'm glad you are coming here to vent your frustration w/what is going on w/DH.
I hope you can gain some perspective from posting here and please come back and vent as much as you need to. You deserve to be treated w/respect, so hope your DH wakes up soon. take care of yourself, Donna.
Sending