MaryFrancis Really it doesn't matter who is at fault. I am sure there were good years when you started out with your husband but for one reason or another it changed. So many of us have been through the same thing, its no good trying to analyze what happened, whats done is done and its time to move on. In the end it is about two people going their own way. You still have a lot of good years ahead of you so think positive and make the best of it. Good luck.