Mary..Ive been married twice, and theres always enough blame to go around from both parties over the duration of the relationship..What I think is more important than anything, is the ability to learn from my mistakes, and become a better person, and to not repeat past mistakes, or to bring my old behaviors into a new relationship..For you to publicly apologize to us, is a sign that you have already grown from your experience, and I applaude you for that!