Dear Pam,
A three hour appointment sounds exhausting in way but I imagine that it would also be fun for a change to be able to spend the time focusing on yourself and your own needs.
I wonder if part of that three hours will be used for tests like computer or written personality / aptitude/ or whatever other tests they do now a days.

What are you considering moving here from your old tdoc?
I can't remember. Sorry.

Yes, leaving will be sad. But you are not going far and you are not leaving with your heart. You will still be Jackie's mother and be able to see him and check on him.
You have done a good job as a mother. Feel good about that.
And you are doing a good job as a mother by helping him move on to the next stage of his life too. He needs something different from what you can do for him now.

For now, you need to insist that Jack not leave you alone with him. That worries me. He'll listen to you. He is not a child. Not really.

Keep posting.
Mari