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Originally Posted by Alffe
"Many of us are uncomfortably aware of the gap between our values and lifestyles, between what we believe and how we live; more of us are exploring ways to close that gap and to live lives that express our values more clearly. We are trying to be more genuinely autonomous."
I don't think I was ever more aware of that gap than last weekend at our sleepover. Young people today talk about EVERYTHING and even in front of their parents and grandparents. They wouldn't dream of having sex with their boyfriends but oral sex is just heavy petting! 
And parents thinking how great this is because their kids can talk to them... TALK to them??? It shouldn't be about how tight and short your pants are...what have you read lately? Or how pretty you are or what a hunk your boyfriend is....THAT and $1.25 will get you a cup of coffee!
And these kids all have their own cars, and ipods, and pool memberships, etc....Are we doing them a favor? Will they be able to do the hard things?
Like...will they keep and raise the baby if they get pregnant?
~sigh |
some are clueless alffe. it's sad. yep, they "talk" but most of the parents never correct the kids or their way of thinking.
the sex issue is a big one. i posted awhile ago about some of the kids on lil'monkeys myspace friends list. over and over posting on how cold sores were NOT herpes and couldn't be spread.
the same discussion about oral sex not being sex or that nothing could be spread or caught happened last year. it got cleared up fast and they all learned.
i do my best with lil'monkey. she is 14. has a job. she has learned the value ( or non value
) of a dollar. she pays for all her entertianment, clothes, pays me gas money if i have to cart her around. she also has learned that since she has a paycheck and most of her friends don't, they think nothing of asking her to pay for them. she can say NO rather well.