Thanks for the update, Bart, I'm glad she's staying if she's not up to going home. Although, with this latest report and Cathy right there, it does beg the question of which is better.
On the layperson med dispensing, I'd have to say it's best to err on the side of caution. Legality aside, it would be a real crime to inadvertently cause Judy to be "blacklisted" among the medical community for being "difficult" or having "pushy" relatives/friends.
Gentle, persistent communication with all personnel who enter her room should help them realize that this patient has the expectation of their highest professionalism.
Please blow a whistle for dear Judy and let her know that I'm keeping these rapscallions under control.