Erin,
I'm sooo sorry for you having to tolerate that. I'm not familiar with some of the things you mentioned, but anything poking into the jugluar and feeling it...
YEESH!
I promise I'm not making light of the situation, beautiful... but some male advice?
Your doc and the husband...
CUT OFF! until further notice. (Just keep the doc at bay, and push hubby even further, milk this one!)
Beyond that, I hope you at least get some good news from the procedure.