Hi Jon and welcome to NeuroTalk! Wow....sounds like you have really been through it. I'm sorry to hear about all that has happened to you and the pain you're in.
I'm not sure which forum to direct you to but I thought maybe the Chronic Pain forum might be a good starting place. Here is the link
http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/forum10.html
Please feel free to have a look around all the forums and join in on any of them you feel comfortable with.
There are many caring, helpful and friendly people here at NeuroTalk. I'm glad you decided to join us!