Well, that has to be pretty obnoxious.
I'm sure this will generate a fair amount of mockery from a couple dingbats, but, are you using a good pillow?
A down pillow will yield to your softer points and also "mold" around your neck and head just as you prefer it. A push here, a punch there, and it's custom comfort every time.
Sometimes I get a wicked burning pain in the outer ear if I'm inadvertently sleeping on my hand, back to the pillow and it goes away.