A few thoughts. I think that rsd is still even by many docs who specialize in this unknown that is hard to really know if it is a connection or something different. For ex I have read here that eyes can have a connection and I have a huge eye issue plus my leg but a very well known rsd specialist said it didn't have a connection. Maybe he is right or maybe he is wrong but what ever you want to call it is pain. I think for me after so many docs and there are always pros and cons about the doc I have to focus as a whole will the doc help me. It is very hard to find a doc who will listen and work for you. If he will help you with the pain in your arm even if he doesn't call it rsd then I would stick with him. If he blows off the pain then you may want to look around. As for your kids. My mom has many other issues not with pain but other and she would try to hide it and I knew even from like 8 that something was wrong. There was so much worry and I really wished she would of talked to me and told me on how she was helping herself. At least I would of known and felt she was being treated. This also puts a lot of pressure on you which is unhealthy and I think effects pain level. Hang in there.