I have the swelling too. It depends on how much I do also.

I made the mistake of washing just a few things by hand and wringing them out and was in agony the next day. Major swelling and pain!! Never again!

I try to pace myself with things that will cause swelling, I take breaks here and there.

And if I can, I gently massage my arms starting at my forearm and going in a gentle circular motion up to and under my arm pit and towards my chest.
A girlfriend with lymphodema from breast cancer recc. this. Better yet is when hubby or Mom can do it.

I also put lidoderm 5% patches on. They help with the pain.

Hope this helps!!
G~