He needs to KNOW what he wants. His going back and forth promotes constant upheaval and instability. My parents did that for a while when I was young, things were always changing. Sometimes Dad would be home, other times he's moved out and moved on. Having no sense of stability was scarier to me than when my parents finally decided to divorce. At least with the divorce, eventually things were worked out and everyone knew where everyone stood. I know you mentioned he'd left before, but that this time he led you to believe it was for good. Apparently not as he is trying to get back in. Oh Renee, I can't imagine what this is doing to your health, mentally and physically! And your 3 year old, I just think she may become more and more clingy and want to hide away from everyone else because you are the only constant in her life. With her Daddy being so in and out of your lives, maybe she's afraid to go anywhere with him for fear he could abandon her with grandparents she doesn't know and away from her Daddy AND her Mommy. I know I'm rambling Renee, I just wish there was an easy answer for you. I know you're probably going through he77! I'll be thinking of you Nae Nae.