Renee have you thought of contacting a local Salvation Army and see if they have counseling, to help with the damage he is doing to you. they work on slide scale meaning u pay a percentage of what your income is, which would work for you, you have to be able to release this or he will have you in ulcers in no time, I know you love him and i understand the vows and all I was there did that and got burned a few times, right now is you and kids time, he needs to respect this and learn to deal with his own ups and downs and stop dragging you down with him, hang in there Renee, I agree he can visit and stay in the state you are in and visit, screw this taking a 3 yr old who is already confused home to his parents and mess with her mind more, and god forbid what if he takes off with her, not like it hasnt happened with others in this world hang in there Renee