Set the boundaries and stick to them, come hell or high water.

Tell him that Olivia will NOT be going ANYWHERE for an entire week. He and his parents can come stay in town and visit on a schedule.

Caller I.D. Tell him that you are willing to speak with him once per week. Set the day and stick to it. Do not engage yourself in his business, simply remain silent and let him do all the talking until the matter directly concerns the welfare of the children.

Give him three days a week when he can call to talk to the kids for 10 minutes, not to you.

Renee, from all you've gone through with all of this, my considered opinion is that you can love him all you want, but you can do that without involving yourself in his life.

It's harsh, but you've given him WAY more opportunity than any man deserves and he doesn't sound adult enough to live like an adult. Move on, sister.