Renee, I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this carp. James Dobson has an excellent book, "Love Must Be Tough", which deals with this kind of situation. IT IS OK for you to step away from him. IT IS OK for you to focus on yourself and your kids.

And what's with your mom? How horrible! She sounds like SHE needs counseling! Some people seem to need to knock others down in order to build themselves up.

What kind of job are you looking for? Let me know what you need and I'll have DH keep his ear to the ground for openings. And don't forget, you can count on us to sympathize. You don't have to get that from your ex.

Lots of hugs going your way!