i'm sorry if this is the wrong place to post and sorry if folks think i'm just a whinger being a newbie and all but...


when my late husband died (sui) ..due to my having physical and mental health problems... and due to my kids being special needs... i made the painful decision that they needed proper care...so i asked for them to live with foster folks who could care for them proper. they live with a foster family on a farm.


my son Andi turns 12 years old today...and as their foster folks find me an inconvenience still having parental control etc so they need my consent for holidays etc...i know they won't allow him so much as a fone call.


guess it serves me right for being an inadequate mother?


do i even have the right to care any more?