Dear Addy

Anger can be good or bad, without the ability to be angry we as humans would be overly tolerant of those that mean us harm and wrong us constantly.

Anger can be a defense mechanism, to prevent stronger characters from dumping on us [ we fight back metaphorically]

When those around us make us angry we must determine the motivation behind their act.

1. if its their ignorance or stupidity= ignore it and save your energy [its wasted on them]
2. If its deliberately done to hurt you or upset = question if its a friend ? if they deserve your friendship [some folk say they are friends but they truly are not]
3. if you cannot control the situation that brings you anger, = move on .
4. realise inner anger comes from our desire to be in total control= impossible to happen all of the time. deal with what you can control and compromise with what you share control over [ problem 1/2 shared/solved theory.
5. understand Anger is a sign that you need to reflect on your surroundings. if people or places evoke this emotion then do you need to repeat the painful process, you can change a job, move on to new friends/relationships, even become a politician if its society that annoys you. Don't let Anger rule your life its the aspects of your life that trigger the anger, understand the triggers and you can contol the Anger.
6. Harnessed Anger=Assertiveness
7. Perpetual Anger=can lead to serious health problems and loneliness.


I sense it is others that create this Anger in you, you must decide if these people deserve your time..........i would hazzard a guess that they dont.

I hope you find a way out of this pain your in at present, i'll be sending you POSITIVE MENTAL THOUGHT'S

David