Hey Debbie~ Seeing this a little late, but just wanted to let you know that I'm thinkng of you. I went through alot of stress last yr when my Mother passed away and then my Sis moved. It just seemed like my world came crashing in on me.
I remember my DD's first teaching job; she was bound and determined to make a difference in every child's life. When she found out that the world does not work that way, she felt deflated. But, all we can do as parent's is, give them love and encouragement.
Hang in there, let your DH help w/his parents and try and focus on what you can do to make things easier for you. Take care of yourself.
There's only one YOU.