mamafigure,

isn't exploratory surgery a bit premature at this point? Did they do a CT scan or an MRI first?

If the surgeon doesn't want to do this, I'd probably try to find a second opinion from another GYN. Seems like they should be a bit more sure before "going in".

So sorry you had such a bad day. And special thoughts for your daughter as well. Not fun when doctors want to do more than you're expecting to happen and worked yourself up for. The terror factor rises considerably when unexpected stuff happens.