For the big family dinners -
Do most of you do a potluck style dinner?

For example the host does the turkey or ham, & the rest are assigned or choose to bring a dessert, salad, spuds, side dishes etc??
The grown kids usually bring chips and pop or snacks.

That's how we've been doing it for years.

for the gift exchange we draw names and set a $ limit, or do generic gift and draw numbers