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Originally Posted by Boopers
Thank you Lisa and Redjpwranglergirl,
Yes, I have a great husband that does all he can to help. Otherwise, my Christmas wouldn't be much.
I have two sons and DIL'S and three grandchildren, 2,3, and 4 years old. They make life worth living. My DIL'S are great, don't get me wrong, but have never brought in one thing for dinner or helped with cooking. The gather in the kitchen and watch Mom run around, which isn't easy, as I also had a heart attack two years ago at Thanksgiving, I have congestive heart failure that has really kicked in, I have 7 herniated discs in my neck and back and I could go on and on, so the family knows of all my health problems.
I wouldn't think I would have to ask for help but the one daughter-in-law likes to visit and take pictures and the other one didn't grow up with celebrating holidays, so guess they just don't think about it. I have the grandkids running in and asking me for this and that and even though I love them dearly, my mind is going a million miles a minute!!
I thank you for the idea of the heavy paper products. I will do this for the holidays and that should help alot.
It was a tough summer as I had shoulder surgery, blood clot in my lung, pleurisy, broken foot and now have to be on oxygen, I have COPD. I know I'm no spring chicken but at 52 years old, I never thought I would be in this bad of health.
Anyways, thank you for all the suggestions and I hope all of you have a very blessed Holiday Season!!
Love,
Linda  |
Oh my gosh, Linda....I'm so sorry to hear about all your health problems...You REALLY do need and deserve some help during the holidays. I think you need to put your foot down so to speak- maybe just come out and tell them that Mom just cannot do everything anymore. Would it go over better if your husband asked/told them that they're going to have to do more because you just aren't able any more? I love my DIL too but she doesn't bring anything either....I guess she probably would if I asked her, as she would probably help more if I asked her, but you know, it aggravates me because you would think people would know to help without being asked
. My son and DIL also seem to think that they don't have to watch the gr'son as much when they're down here- that we will....Our gr'son is the love of our lives but I can't watch him at the same time I'm trying to cook- that really aggravates me. He's 3 yrs. old and very "busy" so there's no telling what he'll be up to at any given time....I'll go in the living room and find them watching TV or asleep!
I don't know how you've done what you've done so far with herniated disks in your neck and being on oxygen....I think it's time you hung up your apron or turned it over to the DIL's!
