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Originally Posted by Boopers
You guys are all so wonderful. Thank you for listening to my gripes and groans. You have convinced me that I need to talk with the DIL'S and explain to them that I'm just not able to do it all anymore. I do hope they will understand.
Yes, Lisa, that's the way it is here. All three grandchildren think Grandma has nothing to do accept play with them, while DIL'S sit in the kitchen catching up on each other's lives and sons and dad are sitting in living room watching a movie or talking about cars.
Lisa, the doctor has me on advair and atrovent besides oxygen. They seem to work pretty well. My lungs are all scarred from the ARDS I had four years ago and then with the COPD, it makes it worse.
Thanks guys, I feel better now, I am going to talk with them and maybe this year, I can also be able to get in on some of the conversations of just catching up! 
You guys are the Greatest!!
Linda  |
Linda,
I can't imagine them getting mad at you but if they do....well, I don't know what to say, other than "they'll get over it".....These aren't children we're talking about- they're grownups now and they need to see/realize that Mom needs help and things are going to have to change. Tell them that you are now "retired"- that you may provide a turkey (if they'll carve it), or a dessert, or side dish, whatever, and the rest of it is up to them, as is the cleaning up afterwards- that Mom wants to sit down and watch TV and visit with them from now on. It sounds like you are in no shape to be doing all this work. If they don't like it, I guess you could nicely say something like, "well, OK...I guess we'll just have bologna or peanut butter sandwiches, or hotdogs, or something like that....I guarantee you that that might change their minds!
You've earned the right to take a break so stick to your guns!