I learned, and you can show this to your hubby, to NOT help Jim unless he asks for help. He has a certain way of doing things just like you. My ideas are not his ideas and what seems easier to me is harder for him.

I am sure he means well and loves you dearly or he wouldn't be trying so hard. He wants you to feel like he can do this, be the helpful hubby. However, all we really do is cause more anguish. Tell him it's OK to let you decide where things go, how they are to be placed and that you have reasons for it, to make your life easier.

God bless him but tell him from one caregiver (20 yrs in the making) to another, back off. lol Unfortunately you will have to "train" him and remind him that being in a chair does not take away brain cells. If you didn't have any you wouldn't care where your slippers went.