I'm sorry that you had the bad experience with that man in the group. There are allot of guys like that. He probably belongs in another group. It sounds like he's got anger issues,and needs to go through anger management.
My NP has given me Seroquel. That medicine has made me sleep with no problem. It has calmed me down during the day a little. It's like no other medicine that I've taken before. The Abilify didn't work for me,but the Seroquel is. It does give me heartburn at times though. Brokenfriend