Hi Anne....I'm so sorry about what's happening. Since your son did show up to get his present maybe that is what's bothering your DIL. Do you think perhaps she feels that you don't want to see her....but you do want to see him? I'm just speculating....no basis for it but sometimes women tend to be a bit competitive. She might feel like she has to make him pick.....her or you. It's too bad that it has to be either. I don't know her or her disposition but I do know some women who think that they have to be "queen bee" and if she feels this way then she isn't going to want to share anything with anybody.

Maybe you could send her a nice card and invite her to lunch or coffee.....give her a choice of dates and ask her to let you know which is good. If that fails I'd speak to my son and let him know how hurt you are and tell him you want to fix it regardless of who is at fault.

Good luck....I know you want to see that sweet grandbaby.