Lori,
Thanks for your reply.. I have to say that his anger is NEVER physical. It's always just outbursts of anger.... Usually very quick and over almost before it starts.. However, I have had some concerns iwth him cursing at the kids and me during his anger... Which audviously frustrates me. and I try to calm him down, but it just doesn't work. I talked to him today about going to a councelor or even trying an anger management class... WOW, you would have thought I asked him to kill his best friend. IT was like the most repulsive and obscene thing he had ever heard.... As much as I love him, I'm having a hard time wanting to commit andsign myself up for a life of anger and anxiety with him....I am also havng a hard time because he is very dependant on me. He really just can't focus on anything. He can't even fill out a job app without messing it up... and his thoughts are just so scattered and crazy. Gosh, I love him so much... I want to help him, but it just sems like maybe he doesn't want my help... =(
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Originally Posted by RisibleGirl
I hate to lump genders together, but I think the anger and lashing out comes from frustration. Instead of lashing out- I cried a lot.
It sounds like your b/f needs to find ways to channel his frustrations, especially if this is something he might be dealing with for a long time. I knew that I had to get my emotions in check- and part of that was by accepting what I had to live with. Some might think that this is just "giving in", but I believe in dealing with the cards we're dealt, no matter what they are. Fighting something you can't control does nothing but frustrate you.
I felt really sorry for my husband because there were days/weeks that I wanted nothing better than to sit in a dark room, alone with no noise. I was horribly affected by light, touch and noise in the beginning and it was really difficult for my husband to understand. If he touched me without warning, I'd jump through the ceiling practically. TG, I don't do that very much anymore.
Just because I'm a mom- I want to make sure that his angry outbursts are hurting you in any way. That's more than you bargained for, and if he's this far out, it's not going to stop unless he seeks help in channeling his anger.
Hugs,
Lori
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