BJ,
You don't have to "get over it."
You do have to have people in your life.
Go back to the counselor. Ask him what he meant. Maybe you can give the counselor another chance. Explain things to him. Teach him a few things. Then give him a chance to help you.

He might end up being good. If he still stinks after two more visits or so, move on to someone else. Please make sure that you have people. You (and the rest of us) need people.

These things are too hard to do alone.

I pray that the EMDR will work for you.

Mari