"At the temple there is a poem called "loss", carved into the stone.
It has three words, but the poet has scratched them out.
You cannot read loss, only feel it."

~ from Memoirs of a Geisha

Having said that, I wanted to mention a new book that's come out. I've not bought it yet but I have read other books by this author and have found them extremely helpful in this complex yet amazing journey as both a child without a mother and then as a motherless mother of children of my own. The author is Hope Edelman and the first two books I read were "Motherless Daughters" and then "Letters from Motherless Daughters". There is another one I've not read called "Mother of my Mother". I guess I'll get to that one day... or maybe not. That might be delving just a little too deep for me.

The new one out is "Motherless Mothers".

I really recommend these books as I found them both touching and empowering in a strange sort of way. It was as if for the first time someone really "got it"... like that quote up above suggests. You cannot read loss, only feel it. Well, it was good to be able to read about girls and women with somewhat similar thoughts and feelings, although they could never be the same, and I was left with feelings of an empathic understanding that so often goes unsaid... instead of other people's sympathy which works in totally different ways.