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Originally Posted by Thelma
One of the sites I go to is totally dedicated to the scourge of Als and is most valuable to many who have this disease. Yet someone has been putting onto the site some really rude and downright filthy messages that are meant only to cause troubel nad lower the the the respect of the site.
What makes one do this? Why do it to those who are suffering as some there are?
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Thelma, I don't know why people do that. Unfortunately people do that in "real life" as well. It's just the way some people are I think.
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Another thing I have noticed is this, when a new person comes into this site they are seeking someone to talk to. Why do so many answer them? Doesn't that just scare them away from coming back. It is hard enough to talk to one stranger let alone many who are strangers.
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I'm not sure if you mean in a specific forum or what. I always try to say something if I _can_ help in some way. In General Neurology, e.g., there are often new posters who are really looking for direction as to which forum to use, or they have questions they ask in case someone knows something about what is going on for them or their loved one etc..
Are you talking about somewhere in particular, Thelma? I don't understand why people shouldn't talk to new members.
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Now for the question. How are the new members going to react when they find they are talkilng to moderators and not just another poster?
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Why should anyone react any differently to someone who's a moderator than someone who is "just" another poster? I'm not really sure what you mean about all the rest of the moderator/user issue that you wrote, so I'll leave that for those to whom it was addressed.
I'm really sorry to hear you're feeling so unwell, Thelma. Hoping you have some brighter days soon.
Just to quickly talk about what Alffe's said on her post. It is an excellent point and one that I think about every day of my life. I honestly do. Sometimes, for various reasons, I just do not have the words, as she put it, to answer. It's fine for me to think about people, but I really beat myself up a LOT because I can rarely find the words anymore to help with emotional support as I used to. Frankly, I burned out and went into self-preseveration mode. No-one else is to know that, 'cause I don't tell them! At times when I feel that way, the best thing for me to do when online in my forums, is to offer a different type of support and that is when I can offer direction regarding more practical aspects of forum life. One where I can share my gained lifeskills and knowledge and which actually has a pretty broad base. I think that description would apply to everyone around here, wouldn't it?