Dave...I am not an emotional person outwardly. I have been accused of being unfeeling' at times. This is not true, my family was all military and we were raised as if we were also military. I do what needs to be done in a time of crisis even when I was being shot at by a man who said he loved me.

I think it is fine and well for people to let their emotions run free at times...I do and I feel better afterwards. I hardly ever raise my voice to the grandkids but they know when I'm angry...there are times we all need a really good emotional cry to clean the soul...

I'm sorry you lost your best friend, but glad you found yourself. I have a brother that has never done that...he carries his anger/hurt about things he saw in the Air Force. He carries his anger because his wife left him over 30 years ago...I know he loves his family, but he does not show or tell us.

I read somewhere that: A man is not a man until he learns compassion, not through the tears of others, but those of his own.