It sounds like the leader wasn't very good Koala. Unfortunately there are bad ones out there. I'm not sure what kind of a support group you went to but they are all supposed to be about support.

More from the book..Silent Grief by Lukas and Seiden

"Some self-help groups are led by professionals with mental health training, or a background in counseling or in group work; others are led by lay people, survivors themselves, eager to help other survivors.

While there is some argument about which kind of leadership is critical in making a self-help group experience effective and valuable. Some feel that professional background and training is a must and that it takes expertise and sensitivity to maintain a climate in which real help can be obtained.

Some survivors, on the other hand, feel very strongly that just being a mental health professional doesn't qualify someone to lead a group of suicide survivors. They claim that groups have shown they can work very well without professionals, who often (they say) don't seem to understand the kind of grief survivors go through."