Anne, I am sorry you are dealing with this! I don't blame you for getting upset.

DBF sister sent an email the other day that she decided that we will give gifts to the kids this year instead of to the families to try to save some money. We are the only ones who don't have children. She even went so far as to draw the names. We of course got the name of a brother who we don't know the kids (4 of them). Oh well, it is Christmas and like you, I will not say anything just go with the flow and do the best we can.